Karen's Korner

Special Occasions and Family

 

Do special occasions bring family together, or does family getting together make occasions special? I think the answer is probably a combination of both of these. Even gatherings which may have a sad focal point, like funerals, can still turn into really special family occasions. Remembering the past together can strengthen our sense of identity and belonging.

I was lucky enough to be part of a very special family occasion recently, so have been thinking again about the importance of family. My husband and I have our birthdays just over three weeks apart, and this year we both turned sixty. Our lovely daughters did a great job of organising a surprise party for us. We had no idea what was going on and it was wonderful to catch up with so many family members, plus a few special friends, so unexpectedly.

I have mentioned on my “About Me” page that we have four adult children and five grandchildren. It was lovely to have all the grandchildren together for a couple of days, getting to know each other a bit better. The two families live quite a distance apart, and travel between the two locations can be a bit difficult and expensive. The five grandchildren got on really well and shared some very memorable times.

The girls had managed to get our younger son and his partner over from Melbourne without us knowing, and my husband’s brother over from Brisbane. Unfortunately our older son was not able to join us as he is still on “The Longest Walk NZ”, but he did manage to talk with us on the phone during the party. I am the oldest of five siblings, and it was great to have everyone together for the first time in a long time. I have always wondered what it would be like to have a surprise party and it was GREAT!

Our families are such an integral part of who we are. Whether we come from really good families (which I am lucky enough to have done), or not so good families, the things we experience growing up help shape the people we become. Special family occasions bring groups of people together who share a common history and knowledge of background which people outside the family can never fully understand. This creates unique bonds between them.

I really value family and special family occasions. I feel truly blessed to have grown up in the family I did, and to now be able to watch my wonderful children and grandchildren living their own unique lives. I hope that you are as blessed as I am.